The Glitter Bug is a self proclaimed dating and relationship guru. She podcasts, she blogs, she dates, she seminars, she coaches, she mentors and she dates some more. She celebrates her wins with Amaretto sours (extra maraschino) and she lives and she learns. Although she has had many who come and go, The Glitter Bug's first and firm love is the inner city suburb in which she lives; Collingwood. She relishes mazing through the local streets in search of the perfect cocktail, and the perfect man, and can’t say no a night on the town... Gushing equally over carnations, popcorn or fresh sheets - she has learnt to appreciate the simple things in life.
If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
I would definitely want the body of the 30 year old. The body breaks down as we age, but the mind gets wiser... I love the fact that I’m constantly learning and growing as a person. Even over the past year I have grown immensely in terms of what I can achieve mentally, when I put my mind to something. It’s hard when people age and find their mind starts loosing its sharpness, but I think all the years learning and growing and wisdom and memories would be worth it.
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
My health. You hear so many stories of lives taken at such a young age by cancer or other disease or even mere chance. I feel so thankful for my good health. Everything else is a choice and is changeable, but often, our health can be taken out of our hands.
Why are you, you?
Because I am full of contradictions. I am emotional and sensitive, but I am so strong on my own. I am a modern woman who started a business, but I have old school values. I value and respect strong independent women, and consider myself one... but still love the concept of traditional gender roles and see the beauty in a woman taking care of a man, and vice versa. I love going out and having a few drinks, but am just as happy at home with a book. I have the ability to see various sides of a situation, and always give the benefit of the doubt. I wear my heart on my sleeve and suffer from empathy to the extreme, often where it’s been crippling. I have the strength to follow my dreams, move overseas alone, quit my day job to pursue my purpose... but need to ring my siblings to ask their opinion on every day things... I am a ball of contradictions - but it’s what makes me, me.
At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
Right at this very moment, working on my own business which is so closely linked with my life purpose. To realise that your purpose excites you and drives you, and that your purpose is helping others, and then working out a way you can make a living for yourself whilst implementing this purpose is such a beautiful thing, and I’m so thankful I had the courage to leave my 9-5 job to pursue this, because I’ve never felt such inner peace and joy, this motivation or inspiration... I’ve never felt so driven and happy.
What are you pretending not to know?
How successful I am. I am always playing down my successes and I believe this is for a number of reasons. People talk about how ‘lucky’ you are without knowing the facts, or seeing the hours you put in behind the scenes, so I tend to play down my success out of fear of being judged. I also play down my success as a single woman because in the past it has intimidated men. I am highly educated, own two homes and just started a business which brings me joy and fulfils me on such a deep level, many people can be intimidated by this, or jump to conclusions, or be jealous; so I tend to play small to play it down.
Are you doing what you believe in or settling for what you’re doing?
I used to settle for what I was doing. I was in a job that stressed me out, no longer inspired me or filled me with passion but gave me financial stability and a ‘career’. I decided that the financial and career stability were not worth my overall happiness and decided to take a massive risk and ask for one year’s leave without pay to give myself a go at pursuing my idea. I now do what I believe in - it’s been a slow start but waking up every morning and living my passion has made it worthwhile, and the happiness and inner peace I now feel is absolutely incomparable to how low I was feeling last year. To live without purpose and belief in what you are doing, to me, is a wasted life.
A massive thank you to The Glitter Bug for such an open Conversation on the Couch. We're excited to say that there'll be future collaborations with this talented lady in the near future both at The Psychology of It and at The Glitterbug.
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